Genius best childhood friend

I've always thought my childhood best friend is a genius. Or if not a genius, at least the best psychologist. She should have been a psychologist, what a waste of talent. Anyway, we had a brief chat yesterday when she called me, the reception was terrible...why? because I'm in the middle of nowhere. I only heard like every other word she was saying...but I diverge....so I discussed a little bit about my BF and how he doesn't listen to me when I try to talk to him about important things. Here I am trying to poor out my deepest darkest thoughts and emotions just to realize that he's surfing the web or answering emails. So my best friend talked me through it. She's really good about doing that. And she gives really good food analogies if I don't understand. It's great. anyways, so he asked me a few questions.

Friend: How long are the converstations you two are having?
Me: Maybe like an hour or two?
Friend: So given what I know about your BF, you are probably the one talking most of the time
Me: yes, that assumption is correct
Friend: So he's probably just listening to you talk for 1-2 hours straight
Me: sure...
Friend: Ok, so pretend you are at a lecture and you have to pay attention for 1-2 hours, you are probably going to space out here and there right?
Me: yes...
Friend: So that's probably what's happening with him, he's spacing out here and there because he's just getting talked at for 1-2 hours, and that's ok, because it's human nature to space out, our attention span can't concentrate on something for that long of a time
Me: I guess....
Friend: See, what I do with my husband is that if I have something important to share, I prompt him so he knows he should pay attention. You should try this "I have something I'd like to share, it's pretty important to me", then pause, wait for them to pay attention and then share.
Me: I guess that makes sense. But why do I have to do this?? Shouldn't he be paying attention to me anyway??
Friend: Ok...remember what I just told you? He's being talked at for 1-2 hours, hard to pay attention the whole time. That's the problem with our generation these days, they think it's always the other person's problems, they never think the problem might be themselves or that they, themselves, might have the power to solve the problems. Instead of blaming him for not paying attention all the time, why don't you reflect and ask yourself what you can do to change/prevent this from happening again?
Me: omg, that makes so much sense
Friend: Yes, so instead of being defenseless and letting the situation control you, you can take control of the situation. You have the power to solve this problem, just try it.

OMG, she's a genius!

So last night, I tried it!

Me: Hey, I have something important to say, can you please pay attention to me for a second and stop working?
BF: sure, *full attention on me
Me: wow, that really works
BF: so what's up?
Me: Nothing, just a test hehehehe
BF: What??
Me: Ok, so here's the deal....

And I broke down what my friend said to my BF and he was smiling the whole time I was talking about how it might be my problem that I'm talking his ear off and that I should be the one that changes my approach to communicating with him. Ugh. I can still see that smirk on his face. We were skyping.

So I'm going to try that now. It seems to be effective so far.

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On a side note about my converstation with my friend, she's about to give birth soon. I say about to, but she's really still got two months. She's been telling me that everyone's been asking her if she's excited about the new baby coming and all she can think about is just how fearful she is about giving birth to her new baby. I was the first one to actually ask her "are you scared? You are about to give birth soon!". The truth is, she has been scared. And no one's really asked her about it. She's been trying to hide it and tell everyone she's excited but the truth is she's scared. I totally understand! I would be scared out of my mind if I'm about to give birth. Seems so painful. Haven't you seen the videos before? Doesn't look like that's suppose to be possible! So again, I'm going to emphasize that my friend gives the best analogies and her analogy to this situation is "How can I be excited about squeezing a watermelon out of my nostril?" LoL. She's so funny. But I agree, that's exactly what childbirth sounds like to me.

I find it ironic how baby crazy I am, but at the same time, how deathly afraid of childbirth I am. Oxymoron huh? I don't know how I'm going to cope with it when I do become pregnant but I'm sure I'm going to be frightened out of my mind.

My friend was saying she's trying to tell herself that a lot of women that are wimpier than her have experienced childbirth and if they can do it, so can she. She's brave to be thinking that way. I'm probably one of the wimpier people I know when it comes to pain. It's interesting that whenever I'm faced with pain, I chose to not medicate myself and endure through the pain, but yet, I am a really big baby when it comes to enduring pain. Another oxymoron. I'm filled with those.

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I can't believe I'm still getting bug bites here! It's cold! Aren't the bugs suppose to have gone somewhere else? I have this annoying itchy patch on my foot. It rubs against my flats when I'm wearing them, especially when I'm walking. It's so itchy and the constant rubbing against my shoes is not helping. Just thought I'd vent about the relentless bugs here.